Lily's Right, It IS Hard Out Here

It's Hard Out Here For a Bitch

Lily Allen’s new video for Hard Out Here got me thinking.

My first thought was that it’s great when a mainstream female artist draws attention to sexism, misogyny and double standards. My second thought was that I wish the message wasn’t accompanied by (lots of) the very porn-y and corny imagery it professes to . . . → Read More: Lily’s Right, It IS Hard Out Here

Thanksgiving and theTattoo

The most important thing is...

I got my first and my favorite tattoo right after 9/11.

On September 12th I literally couldn’t sit up or get out of bed, lying there paralyzed by grief, anguish and anger. In the days that followed I joined my fellow New Yorkers as we shambled about like dazed sleepwalkers stunned by grief and . . . → Read More: Thanksgiving and My First Tattoo

Who the Hell Do I Think I Am?


Writing this is probably a big mistake.

After all, my intent here is to offer advice and inspiration to help women embrace their best selves. But I’ve been uneasy about the title of this blog.  I worry that there’s an inference that I’m some sort of Alpha female dispensing wisdom from atop Mt. Got-It-All-Figured-Out. . . . → Read More: Who the Hell Do I Think I Am?

Halloween Costumes, Pop Tarts and Candy Porn

I have a feeling we're not in Kansas anymore.

I have a feeling we’re not in Kansas anymore.

What should I be for Halloween this year? A sexy vampire, a sexy astronaut, a sexy nurse, a sexy pirate, a sexy carrot – the possibilities are endless.

When I was a little girl, like all children I Imagined who I’d like to be . . . → Read More: Halloween Costumes, Pop Tarts and Candy Porn

You Don’t Get Called the "Oomph Girl" For Nothing

Ann Sheridan's Oomph, Exhibit A

Hollywood sex symbol Ann Sheridan

Lots of classic Hollywood stars are cast as the tough but tender wise-cracking dame, but perhaps none embody the archetype as well as Ann Sheridan – the infamous “Oomph Girl”.  Movie buffs remember the WWII pin-up as much for her comebacks as her comely sex appeal, and her . . . → Read More: You Don’t Get Called the “Oomph Girl” For Nothing

Libeled Lady Be Good


Imagine a movie opening that starred Sandra Bullock, Meryl Streep, Tom Cruise and Tom Hanks, all in their prime. Now imagine Tom Cruise and Sandra were dating and talking marriage. How huge would that movie be?

A star-powered quartet in one of TCM’s “Essentials”.

That might give you some idea of big deal-ness . . . → Read More: Libeled Lady Be Good

Marie Prevost : The Movie Star Eaten By Her Dog (Or Was She?)

Actress Marie Prevost and a dog who didn't eat her..

“She was a winner, Who became a doggie’s dinner…” — Nick Lowe

Would a dog loving movie star leave her pooch to starve?

Memorialized in Kenneth Anger’s Hollywood Babylon and in the eponymous pop song, Marie Prevost is best-known today as a overly-nasal actress who killed herself without anticipating that her pet . . . → Read More: Marie Prevost – The Movie Star Eaten By Her Dog (Or Was She?)

In Defense of Miley Cyrus at the VMAs


Everybody, let’s stop with the slut-shaming. Her performance at the VMAs is upsetting, but not for the reasons you think. The furor and shock and vitriol strike me as the height of hypocrisy and sexism.

Miley Cyrus is still America’s Sweetheart — the REAL America

Am I happy young girls feel they need . . . → Read More: In Defense of Miley Cyrus

You're Wrong About Why You're Depressed

A new way to look at feeling suicidal

There are reasons you feel depressed, but they may not be the ones you think they are.  Maybe you’re like me, you get really down sometimes for what seems like no reason, or an incredibly stupid one.

Say you overheard a friend say something mean, and you feel so blue you’re practically suicidal. Maybe . . . → Read More: You’re Wrong About Why You’re Depressed (Probably)

Women Over 40 Rock!


Whilst I have many annoying memories of Mr. Rooney, I have to say, a lot of Andy’s reasons why he values women over 40 ring true:

A woman over forty will never wake you in the middle of the night to ask, “What are you thinking?” She doesn’t care what you think.

If a . . . → Read More: Women Over 40 Rock!